Our sweet nurse had asked me if I wanted to have them come. At the time I told her I did not. I'm really not sure why, except that I didn't fully understand what they do.
I wish I had said yes, but I didn't know how much it would cost, so I said no. I found out this morning it would have been free..... I wish I had had them come take pictures, but I didn't and now I can't undo that.
However, we had the sweetest nurse that did take pictures of the baby we lost. She took pictures of her hands and feet and even dressed her in a tiny baby gown and itty bitty hat. I have those picture and I cherish them. I have the hat and the gown, too. I can't even express how much they mean to me.
I wish I had had "Now I Lay Me Down To Sleep" come photograph our baby, but I am so thankful that our nurse took some very special pictures for us. I will forever cherish those.
My advice is TAKE PICTURES if you find yourself in this situation. And if you have a friend in this situation, gently encourage them to get photos, they won't regret it, but they will regret NOT doing it. Whether you do it, or your nurse or an organization like "NILMDTS" take pictures! You don't have to look at them all the time, and I don't. It's hard to look at them, but i'm glad I have them to remember our other little daughter.
I guess it isn't uncommon for people to be afraid they will forget the person they lost. I can relate to this, having pictures and a few mementos help.
A very thoughtful Aunt sent me a beautiful bracelet with the baby's name engraved on the back. The top says "forever" - this is one of those nice mementos. It does make me feel better to turn it over and see the baby's name.
Our nurse also made some hand prints and foot prints of the baby and for Mother's Day my husband gave me this:
I LOVE IT!
The smallest little hand is Ella's - our sweet little angel. One of the things her name means is "beautiful fairy" I think that is appropriate.
