Today I went to a Family Support Group. I wanted to see what it was like. And to be honest, I felt a little out of place. Everyone was sharing their story about losing a child and I shared my story, too, but I didn't really feel like I fit in. I feel like my situation is different. Not to minimize what happened to us, but I think what those families went through was a lot harder than what I experienced. Maybe there is a different group out there that I can relate too better.
So, we sat around tables in the shape of a square. There were a variety of people there. A few had lost young babies 3-4 months old, one had lost a 2 1/2 year old and another had lost their 17 year old just one month earlier. Then there was me - the baby we lost was a surprise. It's a different situation.
I don't really think I'll be going back.
I am so sorry you felt out of place! I really loved having you there. Even though there is the other family that lost their twin girl at 2 months I feel like you just "understand" more. Please don't minimize your loss. Just because Ella passed before birth doesn't mean she didn't have a life :)
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